Fundamental Principle  to Attracting what you want in your life  is accepting total responsibility for what you already have in your life, both good and bad (even if it happens to you).  Take responsibility for that you either attracted it, caused it, or at the very least was given it.  If you cannot see that now (cannot be responsible now), at least try on the point of view and see what you life looks like from that perspective.   Whatever works so you no longer resist the way it is in your life now and what happens in the future.

The 5 steps to getting what you want:

1. You get what you focus on! Remove Negativity.  Gossip, complaining and negativity keep people stuck on a very low level of energy.  You get what you focus on and if you focus on negative things, what you get is negative.
2. Know what you want. I recommend only wanting things that are true self expression for you.  Most people know what they do not want, not what they want and why.  For example, I want more money, or I want $1mm.  Why?  (So I have no more $ hardships?  That reinforces that you have hardships!), and dare something worthwhile and large.
3. Clear limiting beliefs. To train a flea you put them in a jar with a lid.  Fleas jump.  They hit the lid.  After awhile they will no longer jump high enough to hit the lid, and you can take the lid off.  Our beliefs about what is possible limit us the same way.  It puts a lid on our expectations.  Mostly these beliefs are either unconscious, or seem like the truth rather than a belief.  It seems like the truth that I cannot become a billionaire from here, vs a limiting belief.
4. Fully imagine your goal. Fully imagine your goal being realized.  As much as possible create the experience that you have it.  “Use your imagination lovingly on behalf of everyone, and believe in the reality of your imagined acts.  Use every sense you can possibly bring to bear into the imagined scene. Persist until you feel the thrill of reality, then drop it and let that scene fulfill itself on the outside.”
5. Let it go. The more attached you are to reaching a goal, the more you are reinforcing that you don’t have it.  Follow the steps and trust the universe (or God, or whatever) will fulfill you your intention, often in surprising ways.

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Live the Questions Now…I would like to beg you dear Sir, as well as I can, to have patience with everything unresolved in your heart and to try to love the questions themselves as if they were locked rooms or books written in a very foreign language. Don’t search for the answers, which could not be given to you now, because you would not be able to live them. And the point is to live everything. Live the questions now. Perhaps then, someday far in the future, you will gradually, without even noticing it, live your way into the answer.  ~ Rainer Maria Rilke, 1903 in Letters to a Young Poet

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Definitions:

re·spon·si·ble  (r-spns-bl) adj.
1. Liable to be required to give account, as of one’s actions or of the discharge of a duty or trust.
2. Involving personal accountability or ability to act without guidance or superior authority: a responsible position within the firm.
3. Being a source or cause.
4. Able to make moral or rational decisions on one’s own and therefore answerable for one’s behavior.
5. Able to be trusted or depended upon; reliable.
6. Based on or characterized by good judgment or sound thinking: responsible journalism.

Responsibility Assumption: Responsibility assumption is a doctrine in the personal growth field holding that each individual has substantial or total responsibility for the events and circumstances that befall them in their life.

Ontology  n 1. (Philosophy) Philosophy the branch of metaphysics that deals with the nature of being (on, ontos, being, and logos, science, the science or philosophy of being)  Ontology is a fundamental interpretation of the ultimate constituents of the world of experience.

Epistemology Theory of knowledge  that studies the nature, methods, limitations, and validity of knowledge and belief.  (Think of Facts.)

Distinguish: To distinguish  is to recognize the characteristic features belonging to a thing: i.e. to distinguish a light cruiser from a heavy cruiser

Distinction: Distinction, the fundamental philosophical abstraction, involves the recognition of two or more things being distinct, i.e. different.

Distinguishing knowing that from knowing how “knowledge-that” as opposed to “knowledge-how”. For example: one knows how to ride a bicycle and one knows that a bicycle has two wheels.   Many philosophers thus think there is an important distinction between “knowing that” and “knowing how”, with epistemology primarily interested in the former and ontology the latter. This distinction is recognized linguistically in many languages but not in English.

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If I don’t manage to fly someone else will.  The Spirit only wants that there be flight, as for who happens to do it, in that he has only a passing interest.   –Ranier Maria Rilke

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Belief: A belief is assuming something to be true, to be a fact.  A belief is not caused, it is created by choice.  A belief about a thing’s existence is not the same as its existence.  (a shirt is not a belief, it is a fact.  Saying a shirt is good for you is a belief)  Your perception  (beliefs) about your situation is what causes stress, not the situation.

10 limiting beliefs (from Mandy Evans):

1. I’m not good enough to be loved.
2. No matter what I do I should be doing something else.
3. If it hasn’t happened yet, it never will.
4. If you knew what I’m really like, you wouldn’t want me.
5. I  don’t know what I want.
6. I upset people.
7. Sex is dirty and nasty; save it for the one’s you love.
8. Better stop wanting, if you get your hopes up you’ll get hurt.
9. If I fail, I should feel bad for a long time and be really scared to try again.
10. I should have worked this out by now.

Cultural Trance: We are being programmed by the culture at all times.  The culture programs limitations.  “you can’t always get what you want”.

Hungry Ghosts: Buddhist term for desires that run you rather than you run them.  A desire for more shoes when you have a full closet is a hungry ghost, desire for more food when you just ate, etc.  Hungry ghosts are driven by intense, neurotic craving.  Often the experience is displaced desire for something else.  Like wanting $$ to get approval, the desire is for approval, not $$, and the desire will not be fulfilled by getting $$, no matter how much.

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“When people start to meditate or to work with any kind of spiritual discipline, they often think that somehow they’re going to improve, which is a sort of subtle aggression against who they really are. It’s a bit like saying, ‘If I jog, I’ll be a much better person.’ ‘If I could only get a nicer house, I’d be a better person.’ ‘If I could meditate and calm down, I’d be a better person.’… But loving-kindness–maitri–toward ourselves doesn’t mean getting rid of anything. Maitri means that we can still be crazy after all these years. We can still be angry after all these years. We can still be timid or jealous or full of feelings of unworthiness. The point is not to try to throw ourselves away and become something better. It’s about befriending who we are already. The ground of practice is you or me or whoever we are right now, just as we are. That’s the ground, that’s what we study, that’s what we come to know with tremendous curiosity and interest.”    ~Pema Chodron  – The Wisdom of No Escape and the Path of Loving-Kindness

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